My social media feeds are inundated with businesses promoting every possible way to be productive. Take an online gym class, you sloth! Learn a new language, only to recite the words back to your computer in a laughably bad attempt at an accent. Make food […]
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Taking ourselves less seriously is one of the best things we can do right now. This is evidenced by the day I got my braces on (don’t you love how the alternating pink wires perfectly complement my Hollister V-neck?)
The healing power of humor is palpable. It’s something that can alleviate our negative emotions and make us smile even when everything else looks bleak. Sometimes, it’s a way to cope with unfortunate events. From this apocalyptic era we’re currently in, a new and hilariously embarrassing social media trend has emerged: it’s ominously named “until tomorrow.”
This all started when I opened my Instagram feed a few nights ago. Somebody posted an embarrassing childhood picture of themselves. The caption said nothing but “until tomorrow.” Weird, I thought, but maybe this is an inside joke between them and their close friends. As I scrolled down I noticed the trend continuing. People who didn’t even know each other were posting less-than-flattering pictures of themselves, all of which were captioned with “until tomorrow.” A few minutes later, I got this DM from a member of my sorority.
“So… you liked my post so you have to post an embarrassing picture of yourself, for the caption you’re ONLY allowed to write ‘until tomorrow’ and you can only tag me.”
Ahh, that’s why so many people were posting their hilariously embarrassing moments! I took this challenge in stride. I dug through the myriad of childhood photos of myself on my mom’s Facebook page. Boy, did I hit the mother lode (ha, get it?) I was not the cutest kid, and I definitely wasn’t the cutest adolescent. Middle school was a particularly rough time in my looks department. Exhibit A: I remember my mom and Nana each curling one side of my hair. I wanted to look impeccable for my first middle school dance at my new school. All I have to say is wow.
I loved seeing my friends comment back, laughing at my Vera Bradley wristlet and my excessively voluminous hair, which my friend lovingly deemed “sausage curls.” I also took great joy in commenting on my friends’ pictures, belly laughing at the fashion and music trends back in the early 2010s.
This is what I love about humor. In this anxiety-filled time, one thing we need as a society is to take each other less seriously sometimes and let loose. Everyone’s “until tomorrow” posts were an amazing distraction from the dire straits the world is currently in. Additionally, we live in an era where social media is a filtered version of reality. People tend to post only the most flattering pictures of themselves, down to the angles, filters and (in some cases) photoshop. This trend is the antithesis of the obnoxiously perfect, seemingly flawless social media landscape. Everyone was able to laugh at themselves and poke fun of others, highlighting that what we once thought was an amazing outfit and pose is something we’d all cringe at years down the road. It’s refreshing to see people not holding themselves to the same unrealistically high social media standards as usual. I, for one, am a big fan of “until tomorrow” and hope humorous and self-aware trends like this last far into the future.
This week has been a crazy one indeed. Between the first confirmed case of coronavirus in the next county over from me, the Super Tuesday madness and the midterms that have corroded every last one of my brain cells, I may be losing my marbles just a little bit.
That’s okay, though! A little stress is sometimes a good thing. I often can’t motivate myself to get mundane tasks done unless there’s a fire lit under me. Impending deadlines are usually the spark I need to chug some coffee and get moving. Yet in the chaos of midterm week, it’s so important to find time to just be. To find a hint of peace in the madness. (Yes, I know this is way easier said than done, but I’ll actually feel myself going delirious if I spend too much time studying. You know what they say, all work and no play makes Kristen a dull gal – and no fun to be around.)
I’m sure you’re all familiar with the typical de-stressing techniques. Take a bath with a glass of wine. That’s great and all, but I often don’t find the motivation to lay in lukewarm bathwater with some bottom-shelf red blend in hand when I’m already drowning (get it?) in work. My apartment also doesn’t have a bathtub – just a shower with a bench. NEXT.
Here is my list of realistic de-stressing techniques that have been helping me get through this tumultuous midterm week. Some of them only take a few minutes, so it’s easy to take a quick break during grind time.
- True crime: If you know me well or have ever logged into my Netflix account, Forensic Files stays at the front of my Keep Watching tab. I think following the high-stress situations involved in true crime cases helps alleviate me of my own stressors, even temporarily. Immersing myself in a conflict unconnected with what’s going on in my life can be a nice step away from my reality. Something about true crime manages to make me simultaneously intrigued and sad. I like a melancholy moment as much as the next Enneagram Type 4.
- Get the lo-fi hip hop study beats GOING. I’m listening to them as I write this post. A lot of people use music to study, but I get distracted in the lyrics and will start belting out the words. I also find that being around people is a huge distraction when I’m studying – I’ll start a random conversation or start laughing at nothing, and then it all goes downhill. What mitigates both of these issues? That’s right – lo-fi study beats. They mellow me out and help my blood pressure go down a bit when the stress piles high. Spotify and Apple Music both offer a great selection of playlists to help you mitigate the high-stress environment that studying can bring.
- Find a few minutes to caffeinate yourself. If I get writer’s block when writing papers, I find that taking a step away and trying some coffee or tea can help revitalize me. Here’s a real-world example: I’m going to Dunkin with my boyfriend in a few minutes before I start writing my second blog and researching for a midterm paper. My favorite way to treat myself during midterms week is by letting myself get all the coffee I need. Want some caffeine recommendations? I’ve got many in my next blog post.
When the going gets tough, treating yourself is of utmost importance. I know I’ll need to reread this blog over the next 36 hours when I’m frantically trying to finish the last of my midterm essays. I’ve been working hard over the past week to make all my academic ends meet, but there’s something validating about getting on your grind and turning in those papers and exams. In all reality, I’m privileged to be at a school that challenges me and pushes me past what I thought I was capable of. In reflecting on the semester at the halfway point, I’ve come to realize that writing these blogs is a nice break from the concrete and research-based assignments that I complete in other classes. It’s a time for me to just be.
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When I was in middle and high school, I sneered at the idea of ever joining a sorority.
Why would I pay for my friends? Aren’t they just about meeting boys and going to parties? That’s so dumb. I’m definitely not your typical sorority girl.
I still maintain that I’m far from the stereotypical blonde, thin, social butterfly of a sorority girl. My aunt was in a sorority, but neither of my parents were involved in Greek life. For that reason, I had no clue what to expect when I went into sorority recruitment.
That was a tough week. It was a blow to my self-esteem, to say the least. It felt like house after house was rejecting me on the most personal level. I felt like something was fundamentally wrong with me. Am I not pretty enough? Not funny or smart enough?
I went with my gut and chose a house that made me feel like I was enough. Like my talents and personality and contributions would be not only accepted but celebrated.
I have been a proud member of Pi Beta Phi since my first semester of college. I’ve found it to be an environment where women challenge one another to be successful. I wanted to take this time to explain how my time in Pi Phi has benefitted by personal growth in many ways.
- Leadership potential: I am currently in my second leadership position in the sorority. I was a Philanthropy Public Relations and Marketing Assistant last year. This helped me spread the word about our philanthropy events to other chapters and campus groups. Additionally, it meant I could get involved in something greater than my organization itself. Sometimes, college can feel like an insular bubble of limited people and places. With philanthropy, you can actually make a difference in the local community and elsewhere. It is a great privilege to be in a sorority, and community service helps me to acknowledge that opportunity and mobilize it for positive change. In January, I became the Vice President of Recruitment. I am thrilled to help bring a member class of bright, dynamic women to my chapter. Additionally, these positions will give me post-graduation job experience and familiarity with executive action.
- Friends: My sorority has led me to close friends who I can confide in and go through the tumultuous years of college with. I want to give a special shout-out to my little who makes me incredibly proud every day. Even though she’s technically my little (meaning that I’m supposed to act as a mentor for her), she inspires and motivates me every day. I am ecstatic for her achievements in Kenan-Flagler Business School and her nonstop grind to accomplish her goals. I relish her accomplishments as if they were my own, and I still remember when she told me about her internship at JP Morgan this summer! I am so grateful to have met her through Pi Phi because I’m confident that we are kindred souls.
- The food: I am far from Gordon Ramsay. In fact, I could easily compete on Worst Cooks in America. If you need any proof, check out my other blog post for the week about how I sliced my finger on a can of pinto beans. The fact that Pi Phi serves 10 delicious meals per week helps me avoid needing to survive on Lean Cuisine and ramen noodles. Additionally, the extensive salad bar at every lunch helps me eat healthily and get some vegetables in my diet without buying paltry and expensive produce at the Franklin St. Target. Also, meals are a great bonding time. People from across different grades will sit together and ask about each other’s days. I have gotten to know many unexpected members better just from sitting with them at a meal. It reminds me of eating home-cooked meals and having dinner-table conversations with my family, which can be relaxing after a stressful day.
Although sororities often get a bad rap in pop culture and the media, my college life would be very different if it weren’t for Pi Phi. Is it the most important thing in my life? Absolutely not. But is it something that supplements my day-to-day life and brings me comfort? For sure. My sorority has brought me a lot of happy times and real-world leadership experience. More importantly, it’s also surrounded me with encouraging and validating women. As somebody in college and on their own for the first time, that is invaluable.