Don’t you regret having a boyfriend all throughout college?
Nope. And here’s why.
Since I posted some childhood pics of me last week, I figured posting one of my boyfriend as a little one was only fitting.
Today is my boyfriend’s 22nd birthday. He is a senior at UNC, and I am a junior. We began dating soon after I started college, and I have gotten a lot of skeptical looks from people after explaining this.
“Why would you spend the most independent years of your life with a boyfriend?”
“What’s the fun in being taken all through college?”
“Don’t you need time to learn about yourself?”
I guess now is a good time to address these questions. I totally get where these concerns are coming from. Nobody wants a co-dependent relationship bogging down a time where it’s ideal to be hanging out with friends and celebrating your first taste of independence. But I want to explain why my college relationship has helped me and contributed to my personal growth and maturity.
- I have a constant support system. College, while fun for sure, can be overwhelmingly stressful at times. While I certainly have friends who I go to in times of need, my boyfriend is also a great person to talk to. The fact that he’s a year older than me in school means that he has some perspective that I don’t, and this especially came to play during my first year at UNC.
- I never have to worry about a cocktail date for my sorority’s functions. This sounds like a dumb, superficial reason, but it has merit. While my single friends stress about finding a last-minute date by awkwardly asking a classmate from a group project or surfing Tinder until carpal tunnel ensues, I know my boyfriend is down to go with me.
- He understands exactly how to make me feel better. He’s adept at picking up on my mood, even if I’m not being particularly talkative. This is nice when I feel like I have a million things going on. He’s also a nice balance to my often over-the-top personally since he generally keeps things even-keel.
- I have a built-in friend to help me navigate the Triangle area. Since he’s originally from Durham, he’s taken me to a lot of fun places that I would’ve never known existed had my Charlottean self not had him around. From Jordan Lake to Parker and Otis, it’s been fun to have someone expand my horizons and show me around.
- I’ve been introduced to a whole new group of friends. In our two-and-a-half years of dating, I’ve come to call his friends mine. They’re awesome people, and it’s crazy to think I never would’ve met them had I been single this whole time. I have some fond memories with them, and it’s kinda fun to be the baby of a group.
Even though I’m trying to keep this post minimally sappy, my boyfriend has contributed to some of my favorite memories of my time at UNC. He has given me an abundant amount of care, time and understanding, and I will always be grateful for his presence in what can be a volatile four years. He’s awesome. Happy birthday, James 🙂